what does God
say about gay people?"
Worse followed. Refusing to know God, they soon didn’t know how to be human either—women didn’t know how to be women, men didn’t know how to be men. Sexually confused, they abused and defiled one another, women with women, men with men—all lust, no love. And then they paid for it, oh, how they paid for it—emptied of God and love, godless and loveless wretches.
Those people are on a dark spiral downward. But if you think that leaves you on the high ground where you can point your finger at others, think again. Every time you criticize someone, you condemn yourself. It takes one to know one. Judgmental criticism of others is a well-known way of escaping detection in your own crimes and misdemeanors. But God isn’t so easily diverted. He sees right through all such smoke screens and holds you to what you’ve done.
"I was born a lesbian." Was the reply from the more vocal of the two. I asked her about her relationship with her father and she became a bit rancorous and said never mind her father, he wasn't in her life. She said she had a good relationship with her step dad. I asked her if she felt she struggled with abandonment issues. She said no and then added that all guys break your heart. I told her that it sounded like her emotional woundedness may have caused her sexual orientation.
In the natural order of humanity, it is a relationship between a man and a woman that promulgate the species. We talked about the natural way of humanity. I asked her a question: "Could it be that the natural love between a man and a woman is the true nature of humanity and a more excellent way of love?"
I have friends who are gay and people that I love dearly who are in gay relationships. I have told them that I could not love them anymore if they were in a straight relationship. My love for them is not dictated by their sexual orientation. Many gay people that I know have experienced emotional and or sexual trauma. Fractured families with missing or emotionally dead parents have caused children to seek the approval of the same sex. Sexual trauma is a wound that affects both gay and straight people. Unhealed emotional wounds caused by sexual trauma can distort the true beauty of sexual joy experienced in a loving relationship between a man and a woman.
Is it healthy to make a choice regarding sexual partners based on a deep and unhealed wound? Nobody, gay or straight should think about entering into a relationship unless they are healed emotionally. I always urge people to have a heart to heart chat with God about their sexuality. It is not my responsibility to convince or convert anybody to my belief system. The way I read it, the more excellent way seems to be the natural way. All relationships will struggle. Most people will struggle regarding sexuality in some manner. Healing through openness and honesty can be accomplished through compassionate, nonjudgmental listening.
You deserve the best in life. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. God picked you for first string on his team. Expect the best. Don't settle for a future life that may be dictated by your wounded past. We need to open up more compassionate dialogues with God and ask him to heal our wounds.
He answers prayer.
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds
[curing their pains and their sorrows].
Psalm 147:3 Amplified Bible