Struggling is OK
A man once helped a butterfly free itself from its cocoon. He pulled away the cocoon and let the imprisoned butterfly go free. The butterfly was unable to fly. The struggle was the key to its ability to fly freely. The struggle forced fluid into the butterfly's wings enabling it to fly.
Do not feel bad about allowing somebody to struggle. Struggling is strengthening - a process that we sometimes need to do ourselves.
Thanks for your time.
Go do something nice for somebody.